When you have a passion for performing a task to help hurting people, there are many opportunities. And the wonderful outcome is when you bless others, you get blessed. As grandparents we have compassion and caring for our grands. Focus that compassion on
another avenue. Take
your grands to
see others. People love to see kids, even if they are a little distracting at times. How do you go about this? Let’s look at where, how and when!
A friend or acquaintance with a chronic or terminal illness. A friend of mine spends 4 hours every Friday with a friend who has terminal cancer. She reads, prays, visits, simply spends time with her. You don’t have to talk. Caring can be silently holding her hand or reading her mail. This is awesome faith in action.
Validate an invalid that is homebound. Let them know they are important and special.
A nursing home resident whose dreary monotonous days need a bit of bright sunshine. I work at a memory care facility where people volunteer to sing or play music. If no one comes you can see their confusion and sadness.
Take someone out for lunch or coffee if they are consumed with caring for others, whether their parent, kids, grandkids, or foster kids. Give them a mini-vacation and show them they are appreciated.
Just start. Don’t make excuses. Everyone is busy. Push through despite inconvenience, your schedule or even pain. Put one foot in front of the other. Pray and meditate for wisdom, discernment and direction about what to do.
Don’t barge in and start dusting or picking up. Be subtle. They might think they are messy, maybe rightly so. Reassure, ask, ask may I do the dishes? Be specific. If you say what do you need help with, they may say nothing. It’s hard for people to accept help. Plant the idea and come across as eager to help.
My Granny was 87, a total care and could not even speak. We got a big copy of “The Secret Garden” and every time we came to visit we would read a chapter. I encouraged her that she might not be able to talk but she could commune with her Creator and pray for people. She lived next to the park, my husband and I visited her one day, read and then walked the park. When we got back she said, “did you have a nice walk?” This from the lady who could not talk. It made me realize she was in there and knew what was going on. Such a blessed insight for us.
Start now. You don’t know what tomorrow holds. When my first husband Tom was terminal, many friends did not come to see him. Later they said they didn’t know what to say and it was hard to see him like that. Call, show up, and be there to show you care. Caregivers may need a short break. This can give an amazing refreshing impact on both their lives when you take time to show you care.
We may feel overwhelmed with what we have to do. To focus on others will give us an improved perspective and ability to accomplish what we need to do. As we bless others, we will be blessed. Our kids and grandkids will see this lived out in our lives and mimic this positive behavior. Anthony says it makes his heart hurt to see someone else hurt, it’s awesome to see compassion developing at such a young age.
I wish you well as you develop this passion with purpose and pursue making an impact in the world around you.
Sam is a businessman, writer, entertainer, speaker, husband, father to five children, grandfather and great grandfather. Sam graduated from Huntington University with a B.A. in psychology and drama and pursued a degree in Broadcasting from Illinois Central College with graduate degree in Christian Ministry from Christian Leadership University. Sam is the creator of Granpa Cratchet, one of the most successful touring shows in the history of the live events industry. Millions of people see Granpa every year all across the United States at fairs and festivals. His characters have appeared on every major network: Good Morning America, Entertainment Tonight, The Today Show (4 times). Sam and his characters have made over 500 local appearances and on all the major networks; NBC, CBS, ABC, ESPN, PBN, The LeSea Network, The PTL Network and Praise the Lord. They currently appear all around the world every week on YouTube and Facebook, and on several satellite networks via the Kidz Television Network and The Captain Hook (children's) Show.