"Don't beat yourself you - build yourself up!" Author and speaker, Debra Susan Bowman
You can never beat yourself to a better you. You can never beat yourself up to the next level. You can't beat yourself to victory. You can never make yourself feel better or do better by beating yourself up. Beating yourself up is a bad habit you can break. From now on when something goes wrong, and if you are in the battle to win, something will always be going wrong, and you are tempted to beat yourself up, just declare NO!
Instead of beating yourself up, build yourself up. Say good things to yourself about yourself, even when no one else will. Look in the mirror and say, regardless of what's going wrong in your life; I AM AWESOME! I CAN DO IT! I CAN MAKE IT! I WILL BE HAPPY AND POSITIVE! GOD WILL SHOW ME THE WAY! I WILL DISCOVER A NEW SOLUTION I HAVE NEVER SEEN BEFORE BECAUSE I HAVE GOD WITH ME AND GOD AND I MAKE A MAJORITY!
You can think yourself to a new life and a new life for your grandchildren and it all starts by thinking strong, powerful, positive thoughts about who you are and what you can do. You can't build up your grandchildren if you refuse to build up yourself. King David had some really bad stuff happen to him. He suffered a big defeat and everyone turned against him. But the Word says when everyone was against him he went off by himself and build himself up. Then he came back, regained everyone's confidence, fought for his family and won one of the biggest victories he ever won. (1 Samuel 30:4-6)
Build yourself up today. Your next biggest victory just might depend on it.
"The most powerful 3 words on earth besides I love you are I forgive you." Author and speaker, Debra Susan Bowman
You have to forgive your children. You have to forgive God. You have to forgive yourself. Forgiveness puts the gas in your believing engine. Forgiveness releases the brakes that are keeping your car steadfastly stuck in the past. Forgiveness is like pulling the lever on a big dump truck that lifts the bed and dumps the load. Forgiveness doesn't open the door to abuse, or put you back into the muck, forgiveness releases the load that is holding you back, thats keeping you in the muck. Forgiveness breaks off the chains of oppression and control from someone or something done to you or said to you, so you are now free to move forward, to make headway, to fully press in, to full embrace a new path and a new life. Unforgiveness keeps you thinking about all the negative that was while forgiveness frees you to think about all the positive that might be be. How do you know when you have truly forgiven? When the memory no longer controls. Leave the retribution to God and forgive and keep on forgiving until the freedom arrives and without the load you will run the race faster and longer and you will win!
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"Never listen to the lie - always listen to the life." Author Debra Susan Bowman
Jesus said I will give you life - and not just life, but life in abundance (John 10:10) But, the first part of the verse that gives you that promise also contains a warning - there is a liar, whose goal is to destroy you. If you are pressing into anything, if you are believing God for anything, if you are standing for a breakthrough anywhere in your life, I guarantee you this - you will be lied to. We are all lied to. At those crucial moments in life when something bad or negative happens, or when you are working so hard for a breakthrough you will be lied to, because we have an enemy who is a liar. The question is not whether the accusation or lie will come, but when it comes, the question is, will you listen to the lie or the life? If it tears you down it's a lie - don't listen to it. If it builds you up and brings you life, then listen to it. Some lies are very hard to say no to because they contain a nugget of truth, but if you listen, the lie will get bigger and the truth will get smaller. Say no to the lie, say yes to the truth: you are a child of the King, you are well able, you can do it, you can learn how, you can get what you are believing for, your children will be saved, you will make a difference, listen to the life and you will get your breakthrough!
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Debbie's Declaration: Begin a new life for your child, by speaking a new life over your child.
If you want to change the life of a child, begin by declaring to the child the new life you envision for them. A young mind will store every word it hears and it will track toward becoming what is said over them.
Debbie's Declaration: Like asphalt over gravel, you can repave the roads of your mind.
Defeat fear, worry, negative thoughts of fear and doom by paving over old thought patterns with new thought patterns. Get the new thoughts from the Word of God. Research in the Word what you need to think, write it on a 3 by 5 card, carry it around and when the old thought tries to take dominion, read the Word off the card. Say it out loud. Give it a place of honor! Say out loud to yourself, "Thought of destruction, I say no to you!" and then say yes to the Word you have written on the card by reading it out loud and say, "Thought of construction, I say YES to you!" Keep doing it until the new thought is strong and the old thought is weak and you will think yourself to a new life.
Debbie's Declaration: Love overrides the label.
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Debbie's Declaration: Practice Peace
Without realizing it, over time, we practice worry, anxiety, fear and a host of other emotions and outlooks. Then we ask God for peace. But what if He would say back to you, "You want peace? That is a good thing, my daughter! Now go and practice it." You may have invested years in developing a really good worry skill. Now, invest a few minutes in practicing peace - and you will have it!
Debra Susan Bowman
"A mother is not made so much in the birth of a child as in what she births in the child." Debra Susan Bowman
Mother’s day should not be so much about how the kids turn out, but about turning out for the mother (grandmother) who gives so much. A true (grand)mother gives her time, her finances, her attention, her toil, her hopes and dreams, in short, she gives whatever it takes for the children to have the opportunity to grow up whole, healthy and happy, even if, and especially if, it is her children’s children.
Today is mothers day. What a great day to celebrate all that a mother is. But, today is a sad day for many grandmothers. From the moment Eve had Cain children have not always made choices that honored their mother. But let’s not make being a mother about what the kids do with the life they are given. Let’s make it about honoring the mother, or grandmother, who gives them the life they have. Let’s make it a time to be thankful for all the effort a mother (In this day and age a grandmother) who gives so much in the parenting, or reparenting, of another generation, where mom has gone absent.
So, grandmother, take a twenty four hour vacation from all you worry about, and just relax. For today, for this twenty four hours, set it aside to celebrate what you do for the other 24/7 - 364, lets turn out for all the grandmothers and say a big, huge, thank you.
You are loved! You are saving a generation. Their children are your children. Celebrate the opportunity to reparent and you will receive the greatest joy a mother can have; to save a child, to grow a child, so they might be all they should be for their child.
Debbie's Declaration: You don't do the Christian life sometimes.
Debra Susan Bowman
You can impact your grandkids for the positive, despite the challenges. For awesome grandmothers there is a special bond from their moment of birth for your kids kids! They have your heart from the beginning to the end. Sometimes beyond that, I still dream about my granny and grandpa and it’s so good to see […]